June 02, 2004

B is for bitch

Bitch n.
A female canine animal, especially a dog.
Offensive.
A woman considered to be spiteful or overbearing.
A lewd woman.
A man considered to be weak or contemptible.
Slang. A complaint.
Slang. Something very unpleasant or difficult.

I wish I had a dollar for every time I've been called a bitch. I would have a lot of money and would probably care just about the same as I do now, which would be not one damn bit.

I remember having a conversation with a teacher when I was back in middle school. Another kid had called me a bitch and I was quite upset over the whole thing. I knew what the actual definition was (female dog) but also knew that it was a derrogatory thing to call a woman or girl. Anyway, the teacher explained to me the types of women that sometimes get referred to as bitches. Women who are assertive and know what they want. Women who aren't afraid to go after what they want. Women who others might be envious of just for those very things.

I remember talking to the Child's preschool teachers about why they sometimes had so much trouble with her. They had all gone to a training where they would list all the qualities that they liked in adults then all the qualities that they didn't like in the kids. Surprisingly, many of the same personality traits ended up on both lists. My child is stubborn and opinionated and stubborn and sometimes assertive and have I mentioned stubborn? I'm sure a lot of people would consider her to be a bitch. She usually knows what she wants and tries to find a way to get it.

Remind me to tell her someday that it is OK.

Posted by rowEn at 07:59 AM | Comments (0)